Sometimes your “nicest” qualities can secretly mess you up.
Here’s a truth no one talks about:
Sometimes, trauma makes you feel spiritual. Crazy, right? But think about this:
1. You say “yes” to everyone because you’re “humble” or “kind.”
But deep down you’re exhausted, lonely, and feel unseen.
2. You’re always busy “helping” or “being productive.”
But really, you’re avoiding conversations that scare you.
3. You get angry, stand up for yourself, and think you’re strong.
But sometimes you’re actually hurting people—without meaning to.
Here’s the surprising connection:
These adaptive trauma responses—fight, flight, freeze, and fawn (people pleasing), are actually like idol worship.
Here’s how idol worship started:
People began thinking the sun, rain, and other natural powers (or a human) had their own strengths and chose to help humans.
They started thanking them directly, hoping for special treatment because it made them feel in control.
But this went off track quickly:
Instead of recognizing everything as coming from one loving G-d, they believed in many smaller “gods.” Eventually, some thought G-d was “on vacation,” leaving these smaller powers in charge.
This misunderstanding led people to forget G-d. The true source. Your trauma patterns do something similar, they promise safety, control, or spiritual comfort, but disconnect you from your true self and the real source of inner peace.
Here’s how to break this pattern:
When you’re feeling “spiritually good” or righteous, pause and ask:
“Am I running away from something uncomfortable?”
Instead of jumping into automatic responses, practice saying:
“I’m allowed to pause and choose what’s healthy for me.”
Real spirituality isn’t about feeling perfect.
It’s about honestly connecting to who you really are. Your real self doesn’t need to be fixed. It just needs to be heard.
