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Guides to Jewish Wisdom and Psychology Education

About the Author

Binyamin Rutstein is the founder of NextSelf, a platform for self awareness, compassion, and emotional growth. Learn more at nextself.ai/about

For my book recommendations: https://nextself.ai/about/

To heal from generational trauma, you’ve got to find deep meaning to suffering, you find the deepest meaning when you believe in and trust the Creator is good.

The below posts are built around one main idea:

Life is not only about survival, success, or performance.

A central purpose of life is relationship and responsibility. And the Creator contains unconditional love for every creation.

By relationship, I mean learning to live in honest contact with The Creator, with other people, and with your own soul, the soul allows your personality to be a channel for goodness and kindness.

A lot of people know how to think, achieve, argue, or cope.

But many do not know how to feel close, stay honest, and remain grounded at the same time.

That is part of what thee below posts are about.

Intimacy means safe closeness with truth, you need to become an expert on feelings to know how to describe truths about your inner world in a healthy way.

It means you can be real, not fake.

You can care deeply without losing your boundaries.

You can be seen without needing to perform.

These writings use Chassidus and psychology to explain human experience in simple language.

They explore ideas like awe, love, shame, healing, trust, survival patterns, humility, compassion, and boundaries.

Awe is not just excitement.

Awe is what you feel when something greater than you becomes real to you.

It includes:

wonder, because something higher is touching your life,

fear, because your choices matter,

and sadness, because you can feel the distance between where you are and what is true.

Love moves toward closeness.

Pleasure is what the body feels when closeness becomes safe.

Joy is what the nervous system feels when relationship feels real, awe comes before joy.

One of the main ideas on this page is that relationship with The Creator is not meant to stay intellectual.

It is meant to become felt in the body and nervous system.

Not only thought about, but experienced.

A lot of suffering comes from treating life like performance instead of relationship.

Then people chase approval, control, escape, or numbness [feelings don’t matter].

Even people-pleasing can become a kind of idol worship.

Why?

Because a person can start treating other people’s reactions as the highest authority.

Instead of asking, “What is true?”

they start living by, “Who do I need to keep happy?” An idol never says no, it puts up with anything – based on a teaching of a student of the Maggid of Mezeritch.

These posts are an attempt to explain, step by step, how a person moves from survival into relationship, from shame into honesty, and from ego-driven pleasure into deeper joy.

You do not need to convert to a religion to benefit from these ideas.

You do need a willingness to ask deeper questions:

What is life for?

What is intimacy?

What is awe?

What makes love real?

Why do people hide, control, numb out, or betray themselves?

And what helps a person return to truth?

If the ideas below seem unusual at first, that is normal.

There is no physical suffering in the world of souls, no physical pleasure, you feel emotions.

“You can’t figure The Creator out like a problem or idea.
But you can care about Him, want closeness, and respond to Him.”

This page is here to make them more practical, more human, and easier to feel. A relationship with a human begins with curiosity, with the Infinite it begins with awe. Here is a more organized index I’m developing, all posts are also on my fb page/ig or the blog page of this website.

For my latest posts or to give feedback, check out: https://www.facebook.com/binyomin.rutstein/ or the blog page. An index of 1 sentence posts. An index of psychology posts.

People pleasing, avoidance and abusiveness happens when a person doesn’t know how to feel alone: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1DzbH7hkuU/

How to develop faith in a good Creator if you have zero faith, april 1st 2026 – https://nextself.ai/spirituality/when-you-have-zero-faith/

you continue in the world of souls as the personality you practiced being here (april 1st 2026): https://nextself.ai/spirituality/you-dont-become-someone-new-after-this-life/

How abusive thinking works (march 2026): https://nextself.ai/spirituality/people-dont-suddenly-lose-control/ and https://nextself.ai/spirituality/not-all-abusive-people-are-narcissists/

How to know if a religion is teaching falsehoods about The Creator? https://nextself.ai/spirituality/a-simple-way-to-spot-falsehood-about-the-creator/ – late jan 2026

How does this era of suffering transform into an era of revealed goodness? https://nextself.ai/spirituality/how-suffering-turns-into-an-era-of-revealed-goodness/

How does the world of souls work? https://nextself.ai/spirituality/in-the-world-of-souls-we-live-inside-what-we-built/

One can’t build self esteem while believing certain Buddhist ideas: https://nextself.ai/spirituality/psychology-is-a-science/ – late jan 2026

Spiritually, there are 5 personality types, 2 of them are connected to wickedness or a different spiritual framework says there are 16 types of personalities, https://nextself.ai/nextself-curriculum/spiritually-there-are-five-basic-personality-types/


Why is it better to not be created?

Spirituality Explained Part 2

Psychology Explained Part 3

More Guidance for Spirituality Part 4


Here’s a Fundamental Truth Most People Miss:

Spirituality Guides Part 5


Why a Narcissistic Personality Can’t Stop Guilt From Turning Into Shame:










About the Author

Binyamin Rutstein is the founder of NextSelf, a platform for self awareness, compassion, and emotional growth. Learn more at nextself.ai/about

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