they hate because of trauma.
Trauma takes a natural human sadness (the sadness of realizing we can’t have every mission) and twists it into something darker:
“If I can’t have that role, I’ll resent the ones who do.”
Healthy people feel that sadness and grow from it, they turn it into awe, relationship. Trauma blocks that growth.
Trauma can turn:
1. longing → comparison
2. comparison → insecurity
3. insecurity → suspicion
4. suspicion → hatred
And hatred almost always begins with this painful belief:
“If they were chosen for something, then I must be less.”
But that’s not how G-d works.
The Jewish people were given one mission. Other nations were given other missions. Different responsibilities, different forms of closeness, different paths, but the same infinite worth.
Creation needs those differences. Distance is what makes creation possible, without different roles, everything would collapse back into oneness.
Your worth doesn’t come from a role. It doesn’t come from status, mission, or spiritual position. It doesn’t come from what G-d asked you to do.
Your worth comes from the simplest truth:
You are His creation. That’s the relationship. That’s the value. You stand on the fact that G-d created you, which means your value is built into your existence before you do anything, earn anything, or prove anything.
Trauma can’t see that. Trauma only sees scarcity.
And when someone’s emotional world is carrying pain, difference feels like a threat instead of a divine gift.
The healing begins when we remember:
Every soul is chosen, just not for the same work.
“Your worth comes from the simplest truth: You are His creation. That’s the relationship. That’s the value.”
More guides:
Gratitude is how you practice faith: https://nextself.ai/spirituality/gratitude-isnt-positive-thinking/
How to transform suffering into blessing: https://nextself.ai/spirituality/your-loneliness-isnt-random/
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.
