It’s fear dressed up as kindness. At its root, it’s fear of rejection:
“If I show you the real me… maybe you’ll walk away.”
But here’s another part, people-pleasing is also a form of depression.
It’s the sadness of not feeling safe to be yourself. It’s being downcast about expressing your true voice.
It’s the heaviness of hiding who you are, every single day.
Depression isn’t always lying in bed. Sometimes, it’s smiling while distancing from yourself.
More Guides:
People-pleasing doesn’t start with other people :
https://nextself.ai/spirituality/people-pleasing-doesnt-start-with-other-people/
People-pleasing isn’t kindness :
https://nextself.ai/spirituality/people-pleasing-isnt-kindness/
People-Pleasing is Just Idol Worship in Disguise :
https://nextself.ai/spirituality/people-pleasing-is-just-idol-worship-in-disguise/
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.