because trauma patterns shape how we experience safety, pain, and control.
When your system lives in fight, forgiveness/apologizing feels like surrender, as if letting the person who ‘hurt’ you “win.”
When you’re in flight, forgiveness feels unsafe, your body is still braced for the next blow.
In freeze, forgiveness feels impossible, you’ve shut down just to survive.
And in fawn, forgiveness feels like self-betrayal, you’ve learned that staying connected means pleasing others, even when it hurts you.
But forgiveness isn’t weakness. It’s remembering that G-d is still in control, even when others weren’t. You can forgive and still feel angry. Anger means something still needs to change, within you, or in the world around you.
G-d forgave the Jewish people, but He still called for transformation, to live from trust instead of trauma,
from faith instead of fear.
And Chassidus reveals:
when we repair relationships — with ourselves and others — we’re symbolically atoning for G-d Himself. Because creation carries the experience of distance, misunderstanding, and pain for humanity, and G-d allows us to partner with Him in healing it.
Forgiveness is the return to humility, the balance between compassion and boundaries that makes space for unity to be revealed.
Every act of compassion doesn’t fix a broken world, it uncovers the wholeness that was never lost.
Every apology restores awareness of connection.
Every time we bring love where fear once ruled, we help the world remember its Source.
Forgiveness, then, isn’t pretending the past didn’t happen. It’s choosing to heal the part of creation that was wounded through it, and in doing so, we help G-d’s presence return to a world still learning to trust His love again.
Jewish secret to transform suffering into blessing and why does creation have to carry so much pain? https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19orPtLzeM/
7th Chabad Rebbe explained the gift of being misguided – https://www.facebook.com/share/p/177AxUno5W/?mibextid=wwXIfr
Baal Shem Tov explained why misguided faith is better then no faith: https://www.facebook.com/share/p/1BYMFnSwGq/
Happiness happens when you get what you want, joy is when you notice G-ds kindness in this moment – https://www.facebook.com/share/p/19uKvGMsoP/
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