Humility isn’t possible in a nervous system that feels threatened.

A child’s nervous system begins in survival mode.

That’s the default. They’re scanning for danger, cues, tone, reactions, just trying to understand their place in the world.

They only begin to act with humility when they feel safe: seen, heard, understood, not judged, rushed, or overwhelmed.

Safety is what slowly teaches a child’s body:

“You don’t have to fight, hide, or perform here.”

Without that guidance, their system stays in survival:

people-pleasing, shutting down, over-explaining, or getting loud just to feel in control.

Adults are no different. We think we “should know better,” but our bodies don’t follow logic, they follow felt safety.

When your nervous system feels safe, you don’t need to defend your worth.

You don’t need to fight for space.

You don’t need to disappear to keep peace.

Safety creates humility, because humility is not avoidance.

It’s self-trust:

“I can show up honestly… and I won’t be punished for being human.”

That’s when your soul stops surviving and starts relating.

That’s when humility becomes power.

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