I’ve felt that way a lot, too.
Sometimes I’d worry: “If I set a clear boundary, what will happen?”
Would people be upset?
Then I realized something that really helped:
There are two great ways to feel more connected and clear about life:
1. Knowing God intellectually
(Using your head)
2. Knowing Godliness experientially
(Feeling it in your heart)
But here’s the real secret most people miss:
These two ways aren’t separate—they’re two sides of the same coin.
Here’s what that looks like:
1. Intellectual knowing means using your mind to understand clear truths about life.
For example, understanding that “every person matters, no matter who they are.”
Knowing this helps you treat everyone kindly and fairly.
It gives you the “why” behind life.
2. Experiential knowing means feeling things deeply in your heart, like kindness or compassion.
For example, thinking, “Maybe this person feels hurt or worried, just like I sometimes do.”
This helps you feel more caring toward them. It makes your truths feel real. Why does this matter? When you feel stuck or overwhelmed—struggling to speak up or set clear boundaries.
It usually means one side isn’t balanced:
1. Maybe you’re thinking too much and feeling disconnected from your emotions.
2. Or maybe you’re caught up in feelings and struggling to see clear ideas that simplify your choices.
Here’s what you can do right now:
1. Start small with clarity:
Each day, pick one simple truth or idea that you believe strongly.
Write it down clearly and use it to guide your choices.
2. Then, bring that truth into your heart:
Pause and ask yourself, “How can I practice kindness or compassion (toward myself or others) using this idea today?”
When you combine clear thinking with deep feeling, you’ll naturally set stronger boundaries—without losing your connections.
Remember this idea:
“Real boundaries don’t disconnect you—they deepen your relationships.”
I’d love to hear from you: Which feels harder for you right now—knowing G-d with your mind or feeling G-dliness through your heart?
