“Some people never learned how to feel secure. so they practice survival instead. Control. Avoidance. People pleasing. Not because they love those patterns. Because those are the only ones they were every taught.”
Not because they don’t want to. But because they never learned how.
Their nervous system learned other strategies instead:
control
avoidance
people-pleasing
constant busyness.
Security was never practiced.
So they keep solving life without it.
