Why is connecting with G-d so complicated?
I’ve spent years feeling overwhelmed about spirituality. Ever wonder why it feels like G-d is so far, like He’s hiding from you? You’re not alone.
Here’s the thing:
Before the beginning, G-d’s presence was literally everywhere. Infinite, perfect, completely connected. Then something unusual happened:
G-d chose to “hide” Himself. Why?
Because infinite connection means no room for you or me.No individual stories. No separate selves.But G-d desired a relationship.Think about creating and raising a child:
At first, when two people are physically close, they feel completely connected. A child is already possible within them. Because they want a real relationship with their child, they intentionally create space. First, the child is born, becoming separate physically. Then, parents step back emotionally, allowing their child room to grow and become their own person. This separation isn’t distance—it’s love/care making room for freedom and real connection.
This stepping back mirrors what G-d did. This “stepping back” is called Tzimtzum in Kabbalah. It sounds fancy, but it’s simple:
1. G-d separated His “pleasure” (infinite unity) from His “love/care” (His desire to share and connect).
2. This separation created space for individual beings—like you and me (body/soul dynamic).
But here’s the catch:
This separation also created ego, that feeling of being totally separate and alone. Ever feel that loneliness? Like you’re lost in your own head, disconnected from everything and everyone? That feeling is exactly what ‘Tzimtzum’ created. But why would G-d want you to feel lonely? Because loneliness is an invitation. It’s G-d saying, “I stepped back so you can freely choose to step closer.”
So what can you actually do?
1. Notice your loneliness as a nudge.
Ask yourself:
“What small step can I take right now to connect more deeply with myself and others?”
2. Reconnect compassion/care and pleasure in your own life:
Do one small thing each day that brings you joy and helps someone else through compassion and boundaries. When you do this, you slowly repair the original separation. You reconnect what G-d lovingly stepped back to let you experience: The joy of freely chosen connection.
Remember:
Loneliness isn’t a punishment, it’s G-d’s quiet invitation to come closer.
