Your trauma is pulling you closer to G-d. Sounds strange?
Let’s break it down simply:
When you face overwhelming stress or loneliness, your brain develops ways to survive.
1. Maybe you fight, get intense or intimidating easily.
2. Maybe you flee difficult conversations, distract yourself, or keep busy to avoid feeling emotions.
3. Maybe you freeze, feeling stuck, numb and not expressing yourself.
4. Or maybe you fawn, trying so hard to please everyone.
Guess what?
These aren’t faults, they’re survival skills. But here’s the secret:
To heal, you need one powerful ingredient— Unconditional love towards your past and present selves.
Think about it:
The Jewish people were slaves in Egypt. Painful, overwhelming, and traumatic. But this deep pain led to something surprising, it helped them find and feel G-d’s love more clearly. They learned to love unconditionally, and through that, they got closer to G-d than ever before b/c G-d is love itself. Your trauma is your Egypt. It’s painful. It’s lonely. It feels overwhelming. But this same trauma is guiding you to learn unconditional love, for yourself and then others.
Here’s how to start:
1. Notice your patterns—fight, flight, freeze, or fawn (people please).
2. Instead of judging yourself, say, “I see you, and it’s okay you’re here.” 
This small act of kindness starts your healing. And the more you heal, the clearer G-d’s love becomes. Your trauma isn’t a wall, it’s your bridge. Because the way you heal yourself—is the way you know G-d more.
