1. Narcissism = a praise addiction. “If you admire me, I’m safe.” Control over your opinion. 2. Abusiveness = a power/control addiction. “If I control you, I’m safe.” Control over your behavior. 3. People-pleasing = an acceptance addiction. “If you approve of me, I’m safe.” Control over my own voice (by restraining it). And here’s […]
“You want me to control you.” That’s how they live with what they do. And it shows up in small ways: “I’m just protecting you.” “You’d be lost without me.” “I do so much kindness.” But the truth? You have to keep reminding them, over and over, “My boundary stands.” Boundaries aren’t control. They’re self […]
“The secret to awe isn’t knowing everything. It’s knowing the next right thing. “ The world feels HUGE. So many choices. So many “what ifs.” And then you learn: There are 7 Noahide Laws — G-d’s guidebook for all people. They’re simple. They’re clear. They tell you what to do in any situation. Like what […]
“What if people pleasing-pleasing is just depression with a smile on it’s face?” It’s fear dressed up as kindness. At its root, it’s fear of rejection: “If I show you the real me… maybe you’ll walk away.” But here’s another part, people-pleasing is also a form of depression. It’s the sadness of not feeling safe […]
“Your life is one journey. Not fragments. Not wasted chapters. One melody, with many parts. “ Nigunim (wordless melodies): Chassidus teaches: a nigun without words can lift the soul higher than words. Why? Because music goes deeper than language. It stirs awe without explanation. That’s exactly what trup (Torah’s melody) does. The melody isn’t just […]
Most people think narcissists are always the ones pulling the strings. But here’s the danger no one tells them: A narcissist can be easily manipulated by another narcissist, through praise. Because when your self-worth depends on compliments, flattery becomes a weapon. One narcissist knows exactly how to feed the other’s ego… and before long, the […]
It’s not just pride. It’s values. If your value is “dishonesty is okay if it helps me,” then when you lie, there’s nothing inside that says “I did wrong.” And to apologize? That would mean admitting the value itself might be broken. That’s scary. The Paradox. To change a value, you usually need to apologize. […]
Behind the mask of pride is something much more fragile: 1. The fear that if you let someone close, they’ll reject you. 2. The fear that if you show your true self, the shame will be unbearable. 3. The fear that opening up will mean losing control. This fear isn’t random. In Kabbalah, it comes […]
You can’t buy what your soul really wants. Your soul doesn’t crave cars, clothes, or comfort. It desires connection. In the spiritual worlds, the soul feels awe, yearning, and love for G-d 24/7. But here in this world, your soul gets something rarer: The chance to act out its love. How? Through kindness (toward yourself […]
“If G-d is infinite, why would he He end a relationship? That’s a human move, not a divine one.” That question stopped me mid-scroll. So much debate. So little clarity. Here’s the simple walk-through. Islam’s view The Qur’an calls Jesus (ʿĪsā) a prophet and messenger. That’s written belief, not psychology. Judaism’s view Prophecy ended with […]