Ever feel alone, stuck, or disconnected? Here’s something shocking: Your soul chose your ego, on purpose. It’s not punishment. It’s your ticket to building your own eternal future.
Why Does Your Ego Feel Like a Weight?
Think of your ego like weights in a gym:
They feel tough. Sometimes painful. But each lift makes you stronger.
What Are the 5 Types of Ego?
Here’s a breakdown of the 5 types of ego one might have:
- Complete Tzadik (Fully Righteous)
• Your ego effortlessly surrenders.
• Connecting to G-d and others feels natural.
• But here’s the secret: This level isn’t earned, it’s a divine gift given to a few who are meant to be powerful channels of G-dliness (compassion and kindness).
- Incomplete Tzadik (Mostly Righteous)
1. Your ego mostly surrenders.
2. Connecting is easy, with occasional minor struggles with compassion and kindness
3. Still rare, still gifted.
- Beinoni (Constantly Struggling, in-between)
1. Your ego never gives up.
2. Connection is a daily battle, but you keep choosing what’s right.
3. This is your reachable goal, the true hero’s journey.
- Rasha With Remorse (Battling Hard, yet ‘wicked’)
• Your ego often wins, but you regret your setbacks.
• Your sincere remorse transforms each failure into powerful growth.
• You’re struggling, but your growth is real.
- Rasha Without Remorse (Feeling Lost)
1. Your ego wins often, and you might not notice or care yet.
2. But there’s always a way back, connection is possible anytime.
3. You’re never too far gone.
Why Did Your Soul Choose These Ego Struggles?
Here’s why your ego matters:
Imagine you’re handed a beautiful house for free. You might worry it’ll vanish, or doubt if you deserve it. But when you build a house brick by brick, it’s truly yours forever. That’s exactly why your soul chose these ego struggles:
1. Every struggle overcome,
2. Every moment of connection,
3. Every act of compassion and boundary-setting,
Adds another brick to your eternal home, the World to Come. Every type of ego is needed for the world to function well.
How Can You Connect Right Now?
Quick Steps to Connect Right Now:
1. Notice your struggles: Seeing your battles gives them purpose.
2. Acknowledge tiny victories: Each small win over ego makes bigger victories easier.
Is Your Ego Your Enemy?
Remember:
Your ego isn’t your enemy, it’s your partner in creating forever. Your soul is always pure. You’re here to turn struggles into your greatest strength.
Questions people ask
Is my ego a punishment?
No. Your soul chose your ego on purpose, so the struggle is not a punishment. Think of your ego like weights in a gym: they feel tough, sometimes painful, but each lift makes you stronger. Every type of ego is needed for the world to function well.
How do I build my place in the World to Come?
Brick by brick, through the struggle itself. Imagine being handed a beautiful house for free: you might worry it will vanish, or doubt you deserve it. A house you build yourself is truly yours forever. Every struggle overcome, every moment of connection, every act of compassion and boundary-setting adds a brick.
Can I become a tzadik?
Not through effort. That level is not earned. It is a divine gift given to a few who are meant to be powerful channels of G-dliness. The Incomplete Tzadik is still rare, still gifted. Your reachable goal is the Beinoni, the in-between one: connection is a daily battle, but you keep choosing what is right.
What if my ego keeps winning?
You are never too far gone. There is always a way back, and connection is possible anytime. Sincere remorse turns each failure into powerful growth. Start small: notice your struggles, because seeing your battles gives them purpose, and acknowledge tiny victories, because each small win makes bigger ones easier.
“Your ego has one of five main patterns. Which pattern shows up most often in your life?”
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.