“You want me to control you.” That’s how they live with what they do.
And it shows up in small ways:
“I’m just protecting you.” “You’d be lost without me.” “I do so much kindness.”
But the truth?
You have to keep reminding them, over and over, “My boundary stands.”
Boundaries aren’t control.
They’re self respect made visible. They’re about what I will do if my line is crossed.
Quick reply when they say:
“You’re controlling me with boundaries!” “Boundaries guide my behavior, not yours. I’m telling you what I will do.”
