First Published January 4, 2026
Last Updated June 17, 2026
by Binyamin Rutstein
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Guides to Chassidus Wisdom and Psychology Education

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For a 2026 index of content: http://nextself.ai/wisdom/2026-index/

“To heal from generational trauma, you’ve got to find deep meaning to suffering, you find the deepest meaning when you believe in and trust the Creator is good.” – Based on Chabad Chassidus

Posts specifically about healing from generational trauma.

“When one person does relationship work with another human, it’s like bringing an atonement offering on behalf for the Creator for the suffering humanity experienced through Creation” – based on a talk of the Lubavitcher Rebbe about a Midrash.

If you have any criticism of content, leave a comment on that post and it will be addressed.

How to identify the spiritual leader of our generation.

According to the Alter Rebbe, many of the inner teachings of Torah (Hebrew Bible) like Chassidus, became hidden from the Jewish people during the generations of exile and persecution, especially around the 1500s and 1600s but it began getting lost during the second temple era.

The Baal Shem Tov began revealing those teachings again in the early 1700s, making Chassidus accessible as a path of awe, trust, joy, and relationship with The Creator, Chabad Chassidus explains the ideas more deeply.


A lot of Chassidus is built on foundations discussed by Rabbeinu Bachya ibn Pekudah. He teaches that every soul agreed to its mission before entering this world. Life is not random; each soul arrives with a purpose.

3 important ideas explained:

how does suffering transform into revealed goodness.

Basics to Chabad Chassidus.

Psychology of prayer explained.

Your beliefs effect how your nervous system feels.

The below posts (you’ve got to scroll a bit for the list) are built around one main idea:

Life is not only about survival, success, or performance.

A central purpose of life is relationship and responsibility. And the Creator contains unconditional love for every creation, all parts of your personality, every thought and fantasy you have is from part of your personality.

By relationship, I mean learning to live in honest contact with The Creator, with other people, and with your own soul, the soul allows your personality to be a channel for goodness and kindness.

Practically it means, if one has an unhealthy sexual fantasy, it means saying to yourself “I feel so lonely, I want connection”, some people find it more helpful to say to themself “you want connection… (speaking to the nervous system)” or rotating between the two and see what gives comfort, you can practice self compassion b/c of your soul.

It means developing the mindset of “I’m here to be a channel for goodness”, sometimes it means telling G-d we live in a very sad reality and want more revealed goodness. – based on a talk of the Rebbe.

Because of generational trauma, humans have all sorts of unhelpful fantasies that cause us to lead a life of loneliness, sometimes an unhelpful fantasy causes one to think and believe “I will do this alone.”

A lot of people know how to think, achieve, argue, or cope.

But many do not know how to feel close, stay honest, and remain grounded at the same time.

That is part of what the below posts are about.

Intimacy means safe closeness with truth, you need to become an expert on feelings to know how to describe truths about your inner world in a healthy way.

It means you can be real, not fake.

You can care deeply without losing your boundaries.

You can be seen without needing to perform (calculate or compare).

These writings use Chassidus and psychology to explain human experience in simple language.

They explore ideas like awe, love, shame, healing, trust, survival patterns, humility, compassion, and boundaries.

Awe is not just excitement, it is what you feel when something greater than you becomes real to you.

It includes:

wonder, because something higher is touching your life,

fear, because your choices matter,

and sadness, because His goodness can always be more revealed

Pleasure is what the body feels when closeness becomes safe.

Joy is what the nervous system feels when relationship feels real, awe comes before deep joy.

One of the main ideas on this page is that relationship with The Creator is not meant to stay intellectual.

It is meant to become felt in the body and nervous system, awe and joy are the felt experience.

A lot of suffering comes from treating life like performance instead of relationship.

Then people chase approval, control, escape, or numbness [feelings don’t matter].

Even people-pleasing can become a kind of idol worship.

Why?

An idol never says no, it puts up with anything – based on a teaching of a student of the Maggid of Mezeritch.

There is no physical suffering in the world of souls, no physical pleasure, you feel emotions.

“You can’t figure The Creator out like a problem or idea.
But you can care about Him, want closeness, and respond to Him.”

This page is here to make them more practical, more human, and easier to feel. A relationship with a human begins with curiosity, with the Infinite it begins with awe, all below ideas can help you feel deeper awe.

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Only one belief structure is healthy for the nervous system, it’s not Atheism or Buddhism but the 13 principles of faith taught by Maimonides when understood through Chabad Chassidus. – May 31st 2026

Psychology of prayer explained: – May 10th 2026

People pleasing, avoidance and abusiveness happens when a person doesn’t know how to feel alone. – April 17th 2026

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How to develop faith in a good Creator if you have zero faith, april 1st 2026 – http://nextself.ai/spirituality/when-you-have-zero-faith/

you continue in the world of souls as the personality you practiced being here (april 1st 2026): http://nextself.ai/spirituality/you-dont-become-someone-new-after-this-life/

How abusive thinking works (march 2026): http://nextself.ai/spirituality/people-dont-suddenly-lose-control/ and http://nextself.ai/spirituality/not-all-abusive-people-are-narcissists/

How to know if a religion is teaching falsehoods about The Creator? http://nextself.ai/spirituality/a-simple-way-to-spot-falsehood-about-the-creator/ – late jan 2026

How does this era of suffering transform into an era of revealed goodness? http://nextself.ai/spirituality/how-suffering-turns-into-an-era-of-revealed-goodness/

How does the world of souls work? http://nextself.ai/spirituality/in-the-world-of-souls-we-live-inside-what-we-built/

One can’t build self esteem while believing certain Buddhist ideas: http://nextself.ai/spirituality/psychology-is-a-science/ – late jan 2026

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Spiritually, there are 5 personality types, 2 of them are connected to wickedness or a different spiritual framework says there are 16 types of personalities, http://nextself.ai/nextself-curriculum/spiritually-there-are-five-basic-personality-types/


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Explore the NextSelf 2026 Index and 2025 Index.

They organize the core ideas on awareness, compassion, boundaries, and how they build real relationship and responsibility with The Creator.

About the Author

Binyamin Rutstein is the founder of NextSelf, a platform for self awareness, compassion, and emotional growth. Learn more about the mission and his story.

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