Feeling constantly overwhelmed or struggling to set boundaries/limits?
You’re not alone.
What does the wick and flame picture mean?
Imagine this:
1. Your body is a wick.
2. Your soul is a flame waiting to shine brightly.
3. Your daily actions and choices are the oil that fuels this flame.
Why does saying yes too often dim your flame?
Here’s what’s going on:
When you say “yes” too often and let overwhelm take over, your flame dims. But every time you intentionally set a boundary/limit or choose wisely, you add clear, powerful oil—igniting your inner fire. Ever felt afraid your boundaries might push others away?
How can you set a boundary without fear?
Try this quick reframe:
Before responding, remind yourself:
“Every clear boundary I set is essential fuel for my soul.”
Ask yourself one powerful question:
Is this choice adding oil to my flame—or just burning me out?
Takeaway:
Your boundaries aren’t barriers—they’re the fuel that turns overwhelm into clarity and darkness into light. Try setting one gentle, clear boundary today and feel your inner flame grow brighter.
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls, and what does it mean to be light? And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
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