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Why was my son arguing so much?
One time, my son kept getting upset and arguing a lot.
At first, I felt annoyed. But then I understood something important:
He wasn’t trying to cause trouble. He just wanted more of my attention and closeness. What if life’s hard moments work the same way?
Are hard moments G-d asking us to come closer?
Every time I’ve faced something difficult or disappointing, it wasn’t just bad luck.
It was G-d asking me to get closer—wanting real conversations, honesty, and a true relationship.
What does it mean to stop reacting automatically?
But here’s what I learned:
To really answer G-d, I had to stop reacting automatically.
By automatically, I mean:
1. My fight reaction (criticizing others or myself).
2. Flight reaction (avoiding difficult conversations with myself or others).
3. Freeze reaction (not taking action).
4. And fawn (which is people-pleasing) reaction (being too agreeable).
These reactions protected me before, but they’re the opposite of humility and kept me away from real connection.
When I chose kindness and humility instead, the hard moments changed:
They became ways to know G-d more, have real talks, and feel connected.
Now, whenever life gets tough, I stop and think: Is this just G-d quietly saying, “Come closer”?
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls, and what does it mean to be light? And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
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