It’s deeper than being “nice.”
It’s survival.
Kabbalah reveals why:
→ Universe starts with independent energy (sefirot).
→ They forgot their source (G-d), developed ego.
→ Ego led to weakness, then shattered sparks.
These sparks show up as survival habits:
• Fawn (people pleasing): Seeking approval, sacrificing needs.
• Freeze: Stuck without action.
• Flight: Escaping into distractions.
• Fight: Protecting yourself at others’ expense.
Here’s today’s tip to heal:
Use wisdom, understanding, and compassionate boundaries.
Turn survival habits into strengths:
• Fight → Courage, assertiveness, leadership.
• Flight → Determination, perseverance.
• Freeze → Mindfulness, awareness, presence.
• Fawn → Deep listening, fairness, care.
Your urge to please isn’t weakness.
It’s your invitation to reconnect—with yourself. Healing yourself is your greatest kindness.
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.