Here’s a surprising reason:
Low self-esteem isn’t just “feeling bad” about yourself.
It’s more subtle, and more powerful.
When your self-esteem is low, you naturally hold back from connection.
Maybe you:
1. Worry you’ll say the wrong thing.
2. Assume others don’t really care.
3. Feel like your beliefs don’t matter.
But here’s a secret that changed everything for me:
You build self-esteem in tiny moments.
Not big achievements.
Not major changes.
Just by noticing good choices you already make:
1. Did you help someone today?
2. Did you stay calm when you felt annoyed?
3. Did you work on a personal goal?
These acknowledgments stack up.
They slowly fill you with confidence.
As your self-esteem grows, connections become easier.
You’ll share your beliefs clearly,
express your needs kindly,
and set boundaries that actually stick.
One idea to remember:
Connection isn’t about impressing others, it’s about appreciating yourself.
Try it today.
Notice just one good choice you’ve made.
And watch how it slowly opens the doors to deeper, more meaningful connections.
"You don't need applause, you just need to notice your own good choices."
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.