Whenever I made mistakes, I’d move into fear—believing G-d couldn’t possibly care about me unless I was perfect.
This made me freeze up (which looks like shutting down) or desperately try to please Him, hoping He wouldn’t abandon me. But I learned something powerful:
Nothing about G-d changes because of our mistakes or struggles.
Why Doesn’t G-d Change Like We Do?
Think of a parent with their infant:
When the baby drops a toy or stumbles, the parent doesn’t change. Their care and presence remain the same.
Imagine this:
You learn new things every day. New ideas change your perspective. But G-d doesn’t learn or change. He already knows everything simply by knowing Himself. Even after creating mountains, oceans, and your complex emotions, G-d remains exactly the same as He always was.
What Does G-d’s Unchanging Care Mean for Me?
Why does this matter?
Because it means you’re never truly disconnected. Feeling lonely or overwhelmed? That’s not proof that G-d stepped away. In fact, these moments are exactly where you can find G-d closest.
What Can I Do When I Feel Disconnected?
Two simple things you can do today:
1. When overwhelmed, quietly remind yourself:
“This feeling isn’t separation—it’s an invitation to find G-d right here.”
2. Notice one simple thing today (the smell of coffee, the feel of sunlight), and tell yourself:
“G-d isn’t just watching this moment—He’s IN it.”
Your struggles aren’t proof of distance—they’re proof of connection.
Questions people ask
Why do I feel disconnected from G-d when I make a mistake?
Fear can make you believe G-d only cares about you if you’re perfect, so a mistake feels like it pushes Him away. The article explains that isn’t true: G-d’s care doesn’t shift when you slip up, the same way a parent’s care for a baby doesn’t change when the baby stumbles.
Does G-d change or pull away when I struggle?
No. G-d doesn’t learn or change the way people do; He already knows everything simply by knowing Himself. Even after creating oceans, mountains, and your emotions, He stays exactly the same as He always was. That steadiness means your struggles never make Him care about you less.
Is feeling lonely or overwhelmed proof that G-d has left?
No, the opposite. Feeling lonely or overwhelmed isn’t proof that G-d stepped away; the article says these moments are exactly where you can find Him closest. Meeting a hard feeling this way, instead of treating it as abandonment, is a small act of self-compassion.
What can I do today to feel closer to G-d?
Try the article’s two practices, which are both awareness exercises. When you feel overwhelmed, quietly remind yourself the feeling is an invitation to find G-d right here, not proof of separation. Then notice one small thing, like the smell of coffee or the feel of sunlight, and tell yourself G-d isn’t just watching that moment, He’s in it.
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.