Here’s a surprising idea:
Hurtful actions aren’t random—they’re spiritual “fallen sparks” in disguise. Kabbalah explains that each of us carries “fallen sparks”.
Pieces of spiritual energy that became misaligned because divine consciousness was originally shared anonymously. Without realizing the source of their strength and light, the ancient energies shattered, scattering sparks of darkness within us.
Imagine this:
When someone hurts you, they’re unknowingly passing on their inner darkness. They’re not being intentionally cruel—they’re struggling to handle their own misaligned energy. Sound familiar? You’re overwhelmed, wondering why setting boundaries feels impossible without losing connection.
Here are your spiritual superpowers to change the script:
Awareness:
Recognize that their hurt isn’t personal. It’s misplaced spiritual energy needing compassion.
Self-compassion: Tell yourself, “Their struggle isn’t mine to fix.”
Understand without absorbing their negativity.
Boundaries: Clearly and kindly communicate, “I understand you’re upset, but I can’t engage this way.”
When you respond with clarity and compassion, you help turn their darkness into light—and your overwhelm into confidence.
Think about this:
“Boundaries don’t block relationships; they elevate the energy.”
Who will you help by understanding their struggle differently today?
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.