It might not be what you think.
Here’s the surprising truth:
Trauma patterns aren’t just emotional—they block your soul.
Think of trauma patterns like clouds hiding the sun:
→ People-pleasing (fawning)
→ Avoidance (flight)
→ Anger (fight)
→ Numbness (freeze)
I started with my biggest cloud: always saying “yes” to clients.
Here’s what I did:
→ Learned how trauma makes us afraid to set boundaries
→ Explored Kabbalah teachings on self-worth and soul connection
→ Practiced saying “no” gently, daily
What changed:
• I finally felt calm saying “no”—without guilt
• My spiritual connection got stronger and clearer
• My business improved—because clear boundaries attract respect
The big lesson? “Clear boundaries aren’t selfish—they’re spiritual.”
Heal your trauma.
Free your soul.
What’s your first “no” going to be?
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.