Low self-esteem can come from expecting people to have qualities that only the Creator possesses. Imagine believing that someone who truly loves you should always understand you, never disappoint you, and always know what is best for you.
Why does disappointment feel like a measure of your worth?
When someone disappoints you, you might start believing they would have treated you better if you were more lovable, attractive, or important to them. Instead of recognizing that everyone has limitations, you begin treating their behavior as a measure of your own worth.
Why can only the Creator be trusted completely?
Rabbeinu Bachya explains in Chovos HaLevavos (Duties of the Heart) that only the Infinite Creator [cause of existence] has all the qualities necessary for complete trust. Human beings have limited wisdom, knowledge, compassion, and emotional skills. Even someone who deeply loves you can misunderstand you, make mistakes, or disappoint you.
What does healthy self-esteem require?
Healthy self-esteem requires learning to accept human limitations without making them a measure of your worth. You can trust people based on their character and behavior without expecting them to be perfectly trustworthy.
How can you love and trust people who have limits?
When you stop expecting perfection, you can build relationships around honesty, healthy boundaries, compassion, and responsibility instead of fantasies about how people should behave. Real intimacy doesn't require perfect people. It requires learning how to love and trust people while understanding their limitations.
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