not because they “don’t care,”
but because their nervous system goes into freeze.
Why do some narcissists not apologize?
Freeze collapses them into shame and they think,
“I feel terrible — isn’t that obvious?”
Is feeling bad the same as an apology?
They confuse their internal pain
with the actual work of repair,
taking responsibility, acknowledging the impact, and making things right.
That’s what relational accountability really means.
But feeling bad isn’t an apology.
It’s the beginning, not the responsibility.
How can you be kind and still keep your boundaries?
Compassion helps you understand the freeze.
Boundaries remind you that you still deserve real repair,
words, actions, and change.
More guides:
Trauma takes away your awareness: From what we know about trauma today
Why did G-d give Adam 6 laws? The 7 Noahide Laws
The Rebbe revealed what Moses concealed: Why Moses Hit the Rock
The gift of being misguided: What's the benefit of being misguided?
How G-dliness spreads around the world through joy: Before joy comes awareness.
why is it hard to change unhealthy beliefs? Ever wonder why it's so hard to leave a dysfunctional system?
People pleasing is like idol worship: When a Part of a Personality Doesn't Know G-d
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls, and what does it mean to be light? And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
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