Ever think your struggles are punishment? They’re not.
Is my pain a punishment from G-d?
Here’s what’s really going on:
Trauma taught you patterns to feel safe:
Fight: You learned to push back or argue.
Flight: You learned to run from tough feelings.
Freeze: You learned to shut down and hide.
Fawn (people please) (which is people-pleasing): You learned to please others at all costs.
These responses aren’t bad—they’re just habits from when life was scary.
Does my pain measure my worth?
But here’s the real secret:
Your pain doesn’t measure your worth. It never did.
How can I shift these old habits?
How to shift this (with humbleness):
Fight → Courage:
Admit you don’t control everything. Ask for help.
Flight → Acceptance:
Stay present even when uncomfortable. Trust you’ll be okay.
Freeze → Openness: Share how you really feel. Allow support in.
Fawn → Honesty: Stop pretending you’re fine.
Express your real needs gently. Pain isn’t punishment. It’s your chance to choose humility—and finally feel safe.
“If pain feels like punishment, you learned to lie”
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls, and what does it mean to be light? And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
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