“You do not need to be loved. You need to be impressive.”
So the child learns:
I will only be enough if I become #1 at something.
That is how pride gets confused with love.
“Some children are taught, without anyone saying it directly. That they will only be valued if they become special, impressive, or #1 at something.”
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.