“You do not need to be loved. You need to be impressive.”
So the child learns:
I will only be enough if I become #1 at something.
That is how pride gets confused with love.
“Some children are taught, without anyone saying it directly. That they will only be valued if they become special, impressive, or #1 at something.”
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