“You want me to control you.” That’s how they live with what they do.
And it shows up in small ways:
“I’m just protecting you.” “You’d be lost without me.” “I do so much kindness.”
But the truth?
You have to keep reminding them, over and over, “My boundary stands.”
Boundaries aren’t control.
They’re self respect made visible. They’re about what I will do if my line is crossed.
Quick reply when they say:
“You’re controlling me with boundaries!” “Boundaries guide my behavior, not yours. I’m telling you what I will do.”
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.