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Author: Binyamin Rutstein

Ever wonder why you feel spiritually stuck? 

Ever wonder why you feel spiritually stuck? 

It might not be what you think. Here’s the surprising truth: Trauma patterns aren’t just emotional—they block your soul. Think of trauma patterns like clouds hiding the sun:  → People-pleasing (fawning)→ Avoidance (flight)→ Anger (fight)  → Numbness (freeze) I started with my biggest cloud: always saying “yes” to clients. Here’s what I did: → Learned […]

Author: Binyamin Rutstein

Ever felt so tired you’d do ANYTHING for energy?

Ever felt so tired you’d do ANYTHING for energy?

That’s your hidden love for The Creator talking. Here’s what’s happening: When you’re exhausted, you’d trade anything just to feel alive again. That’s because life itself is the greatest pleasure. Guess what? The Creator is literally your life-force—giving you every breath.  But here’s the problem: Most days, you don’t notice it.  You take it for granted. […]

Author: Binyamin Rutstein

Your Awe is Way Too Small.

Your Awe is Way Too Small.

Ever stared at the stars or the ocean and felt super amazed? Here’s something mind-blowing:  Your biggest “wow” moment barely even touches how amazing G-d really is. Why should you care? Feeling awe reminds you you’re part of something way bigger. Awe helps you realize you don’t know everything—and that’s totally okay. Awe keeps you […]

Author: Binyamin Rutstein

Your pain doesn’t mean G-d is angry at you.

Your pain doesn’t mean G-d is angry at you.

Ever think your struggles are punishment? They’re not.  Here’s what’s really going on:  Trauma taught you patterns to feel safe: Fight: You learned to push back or argue. Flight: You learned to run from tough feelings.  Freeze: You learned to shut down and hide. Fawn (people please): You learned to please others at all costs.  […]

Author: Binyamin Rutstein

Can you love someone you don’t respect? 

Can you love someone you don’t respect? 

Usually, you can’t.  Here’s the thing: Respect comes first:  You start by seeing someone’s good qualities or strengths.  You feel respect and want to act right around them.  Then love grows:  Over time, that respect naturally turns into real care.  But sometimes—super rarely—it goes differently:  You suddenly feel deep care, even without respect first.  It’s […]

Author: Binyamin Rutstein

What if the “victim” was actually the bully?

What if the “victim” was actually the bully?

Ever felt confused when someone hurts you—but they act like the victim? That’s emotional manipulation. Here’s how it works (even between countries, like Palestinians and Israelis):  → Step 1:  They cross your boundaries, claiming love or justice. “I attacked because you left me no choice.” → Step 2:   If caught, they quickly apologize—but repeat again. […]

Author: Binyamin Rutstein

Many people pray to G-d

Many people pray to G-d

but secretly love Netflix more.  “Netflix vs G-d: Who’s really winning?” I know—because I used to be one of them. I used to have lots of moments where I loved things more than G-d. • It wasn’t because I didn’t believe. • It wasn’t because I didn’t care. • It wasn’t because I wasn’t grateful. In fact, […]

Author: Binyamin Rutstein

Feeling disconnected? 

Feeling disconnected? 

Your ego might be running wild. Ever notice yourself: Fighting: always angry or defensive? Running away: avoiding problems, escaping into your phone? Freezing: stuck, unable to speak up or make decisions? Fawning: people-pleasing, desperate for approval? These are signs your ego is out of control. Ego says: “I’m alone. Everything depends on me.” When you […]

Author: Binyamin Rutstein

If you love your phone more than G-d, read this.

If you love your phone more than G-d, read this.

Two kinds of love: → Easy Love:  You love your phone, your games, your snacks—because they make you happy right now. → Real Love:  Loving G-d, the one who created the world and every single thing you enjoy. Here’s the issue: → You’re loving the gifts more than the giver. Here’s how you fix it: […]

Author: Binyamin Rutstein

Your problem isn’t fear. 

Your problem isn’t fear. 

It’s that you’ve forgotten how to feel awe. I didn’t need: • Complex spiritual theories• Years of deep study• Perfect understanding of everything I needed: • Simple clarity on how small I am• To notice the incredible universe• To realize I’m standing next to greatness  This week, I’m training myself: Notice everyday miracles. Realise they’re […]

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