Try this:
Before helping someone, ask yourself:
“Am I giving from compassion or obligation?”
That’s it. Compassion has clear boundaries.
Kindness without boundaries leads to resentment.
Keep it clear.
Help others without hurting yourself.
Care like a human—starting with yourself.
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.