but the starting point for it?
Shame usually feels heavy, lonely, and isolating.
But here’s a surprising insight:
Shame only happens because deep down, you care about love and belonging. It’s a signal that your heart is desiring connection.
Some people try to find freedom by staying in the little bit of light they have, avoiding shame. But real freedom comes from stepping into the darkness, embracing your shame, and courageously sharing it.
The inability to express shame openly is actually what hurts the most. Holding shame inside makes it grow heavier.
Next time shame hits, try this:
1. Pause and gently notice your shame—without judgment.
2. Ask yourself, “What does this shame show me about what I truly care about?”
3. Remind yourself: shame appears because you deeply value connection and love.
How to help yourself process shame:
1. Take slow, calming inhales/exhales to feel present.
2. Write or say out loud what you’re feeling ashamed about to lessen its intensity.
3. Remind yourself of times you’ve felt loved and connected.
4. Talk to someone who can remind you of your value.
Remember:
“Shame isn’t a sign you’re unlovable—it’s proof your heart is deeply loving.”
Have you ever shifted shame into deeper connection or love?
“Stop avoiding shame – it’s your fastest path to connection.”
Explore the NextSelf Blog. Start with this post explaining the world of souls. And my Youtube. Content is published to this facebook first and a few days later, to the blog.
The blog lists all the difference patterns to study, understanding patterns is how one can develop 'Daas' [felt knowing].
Update: As awe, trust, and love deepen, they can allow greater openness and intimacy with the Creator. That intimacy can include sadness when you notice how much more of His goodness can be revealed.