Chassidus explains why.
The goal of spiritual growth is not only to know the truth.
It is to improve your personality so you can reveal more goodness in the world.
Why?
Because creation means experiencing yourself as separate from the Creator.
That feeling of separation makes it possible to also feel alone, afraid, ashamed, and uncertain.
Adam and Eve were the first humans to experience what happens when those feelings are not yet met with developed emotional skills.
Without those skills, the nervous system naturally reaches for survival patterns to regain a sense of safety.
Chabad Chassidus teaches that this was part of the design of creation.
The Creator did not create human beings only to receive goodness.
He created us to become co-creators by developing the emotional skills that transform separation into relationship.
That effort also means the pleasure of the World to Come [era of world peace and goodness] will not feel like an unearned gift.
We will be able to enjoy that closeness [intimacy] without shame because we helped build the relationship through the work of learning how to trust, relate, and reveal goodness.
Chassidus explains that every human relates to the Creator through both light and vessels.
Light is the Creator’s way of relating to us.
It carries a way of experiencing reality.
“Light is a metaphor of the Creator's desire to be perceived [in a world of form].” - Rabbi YY Jacobson.
Vessels are our personality and emotional skills. They decide how much of that light we can receive and express.
As our emotional skills grow, our vessels become stronger.
They can contain deeper levels of the Creator’s light.
One level of light says:
“I’m here to channel goodness.”
A deeper level [more humility] says:
“My Source is far greater than anything I can reveal.”
“One thing I ask of the Creator… to behold the beauty of the Creator.” — Psalms 27:4
A deeper level still says:
“I miss my Source.”
The Baal Shem Tov taught that a person is where their desire is.
So when you deeply miss the Creator, that longing itself brings you closer to Him and helps you become a clearer channel for goodness.
Sometimes goodness means caring for yourself; sometimes it means giving kindness to someone else.
The deeper our vessels become, the deeper our relationship, intimacy, and pleasure become.
But emotional skills do not grow from information alone.
The truth has to become real enough that your nervous system can live by it.
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Chassidus teachings were reignited by Rabbi Yisrael Baal Shem Tov in the year 1734 after years of seclusion and after they were mostly lost from the Jewish people because of centuries of persecution.
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That is why Chassidus places so much emphasis on daas [felt knowing], when truth becomes real enough to change how you react.
Faith develops into this kind of knowing through curiosity, analysis, and repeatedly noticing patterns in your own life and around you.
As that truth becomes more real, it gives you enough inner trust to practice emotional skills like curiosity, compassion, healthy boundaries, and self-forgiveness.
Psalms by King David gives language for pleading with the Creator for help developing those skills.
“Let me know Your paths, [Creator]; teach me Your ways.” — Psalms 25:4, a plea for curiosity.
“Guide me in Your true way and teach me, for You are G-d, my deliverer; it is You I look to at all times.” — Psalms 25:5, a plea for boundaries.
“Create for me a pure heart, G-d, [so that I do not stumble again].” — Psalms 51:12, a plea for compassion and self-forgiveness.
“Why do You sleep, my [spark of] G-d? Wake up! Arise and motivate me once again.” - A plea for motivation.
Those emotional skills help you respond differently when you feel overwhelmed instead of automatically falling into survival mode.
One of the most important patterns to recognize is how you seek safety and control in your relationships.
Many of those patterns are adaptive nervous system responses.
They helped you survive difficult experiences in early childhood and give a felt sense of control, but they can also make trust and intimacy more difficult as an adult.
1. Fight believes, “If I become stronger, more right, or more intimidating, I’ll feel connected again.”
2. Flight believes, “If I avoid this, I’ll feel connected again.”
3. Freeze believes, “Nothing I do about the situation will matter.”
4. Fawn (people-pleasing) believes, “If everyone is happy with me, I’ll feel connected again.”
These patterns can become so automatic when you feel overwhelmed that they start to feel like your personality.
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Ask yourself:
1. Where do I resist goodness?
2. Where do I hide from responsibility?
3. Which survival pattern do I rely on most?
4. What belief keeps repeating beneath it?
5. When do I stop being curious and assume I already know what will happen?
This kind of knowing does not begin with having all the answers.
It begins by becoming curious enough to analyze your life and recognize patterns.
As you analyze those patterns, you can also begin noticing something larger:
The experiences that showed you where you struggle can become the exact places where you learn new emotional skills.
The more patterns you recognize, the more you begin to trust that your life is not random, but part of the Creator’s plan.
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As trust grows, the need to control begins to weaken.
1. Fight no longer needs to prove itself.
2. Flight no longer needs to avoid.
3. Freeze no longer believes nothing you do about the situation will matter.
4. Fawn no longer needs everyone’s approval.
Instead of trying to create connection through control, you begin finding connection in your relationship with the Creator.
As that relationship becomes safer and stronger, it gives you more strength to keep practicing curiosity, compassion, boundaries, and self-forgiveness when life becomes difficult.
As those emotional skills grow, trust deepens, your personality changes, and your survival patterns become weaker.
And as survival mode becomes weaker, you have more emotional space to notice the Creator instead of only noticing what feels threatening.
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From there, awe begins to grow.
Awe is the awareness that you are before the Creator right now.
It awakens wonder that the Source of all existence is present.
It awakens humility because His existence and wisdom are infinitely greater than what you can understand or express.
And it awakens healthy fear because your choices matter in His presence.
From awe, love begins to grow as you trust that the Creator is good.
Love brings joy from feeling closer to Him.
It also brings sadness because His goodness can always be more revealed.
Expressing appreciation helps deepen both awe and love because it trains you to notice the Creator’s goodness more clearly.
The more you notice and appreciate that goodness, the more you long to reveal it in yourself and in the world.
The deeper your awe and love become, the deeper your relationship with the Creator becomes.
As awe and love become more stable, closeness with the Creator itself becomes a source of joy.
Chassidus teaches that the deepest pleasure is intimacy with the Creator.
Survival patterns [like people-pleasing] teach us to trust control more than relationship.
Daas [felt knowing] grows as you repeatedly notice patterns of infinite wisdom in your life and in the world.
As those patterns become more real to you, you begin to trust relationship more than control.
Without that kind of knowing, spiritual ideas can stay in the mind.
With it, what you keep noticing begins to shape your personality, your relationships, and the way you experience the Creator.
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The Lubavitcher Rebbe taught that every person has a role in preparing the world for the Messianic era [world peace].
One of the deepest ways we do that is by building a genuine relationship with the Creator.
A relationship with another human often begins with curiosity.
You notice something about them, ask questions, and slowly understand who they are.
Understanding grows by noticing differences:
1. “They think differently than I do.”
2. “They respond differently than I expected.”
3. “I’m learning who they are by seeing how they are not me.”
A relationship with the Infinite begins differently.
You cannot fully understand the Creator by comparing Him to something else.
Awe begins that relationship with the Infinite.
Love deepens it.
Joy grows from the closeness.
The more we replace control with trust, and survival with relationship, the more we become the kind of people who can help build a world of revealed goodness.
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Related guides:
A melody can help change your personality: https://nextself.ai/spirituality/the-sixth-chabad-rebbe/
Every world view contains mysteries, some are more reasonable then others: https://nextself.ai/spirituality/biggest-question-spirituality-not-only-existence-cause/
How you explain suffering shapes how you experience trust:
https://nextself.ai/spirituality/trust-becomes-difficult-when-part-of-you-believes-you-deserve-to-suffer/
Extreme people pleasing and misguided awe are like idol worship: https://nextself.ai/spirituality/one-unhealthy-spiritual-pattern-misdirected-awe/
What happens in the world of souls? https://nextself.ai/spirituality/maimonides-rambam-describes-the-world-to-come-as-fully-spiritual/
Emotional numbness stops people from feeling awe and love: https://nextself.ai/spirituality/emotional-numbness-can-hide-sadness/
Explore the NextSelf 2026 Index and 2025 Index. Start with this post explaining the world of souls.
They organize the core ideas on awareness, compassion, boundaries, and how they build real relationship and responsibility with The Creator.
Update: When an individual trusts the Creator is good, awe [wonder, humility and fear], which is felt after noticing patterns of infinite wisdom, causes love to be felt and that love includes sadness because His goodness can always be more revealed and joy.
All information is for educational purposes only.